thenewsindisosdiary: February 2016

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A Day In My Office Wear! Post 1

By sindisosdiary.com - 09:00

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What I Am Currently Loving For: Autumn

By sindisosdiary.com - 23:00

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Ironing The Wrinkles In My Life

By sindisosdiary.com - 00:30

I wanted to do a post about love again or why I love the colour blue so much but I thought why not address the elephant that has been keeping me sleepless at night. They say that if you are not happy about something or anything in your life you need to do something about it and possibly change it. I am reevaluating everything and jotting down what is working and not working; what's worth keeping and what is not.

The 2 things that are high up on the list are my career and friendships. I need to iron out those wrinkles, hence the wrinkles on my skirt literally :-) I am at crossroads and it is affecting my health, personal life and my new baby being my blog. I have been trying to get my blog off the ground and with that comes a lot of sacrifices and prioritization of what holds more water than what does not. I have been in absentia and that is due to life happening. One thing about life is that you can plan away and have all your ducks in a row but life being life will surprise you. For the past couple of weeks, I have been adjusting to a lot of things that it has been challenging making time for everything and everyone. But we learn to adapt and keep it moving.

With that being said, I took time to reflect on my journey and where I need to be. I am not trying to be hasty about my decisions hence I am giving myself a year to see if there is change and if not then let go. We often hold onto things that we have no business holding onto, same principle applies to relationships in general. In the meantime I will focus on making my blog being a success, being a better wife and partner to my spouse and also being the best Sindy I can be. I used to be a career driven person, confined to a 4 wall building and reporting to somebody who is reporting to somebody and the list goes on. Being fulfilled and satisfied means that you need to be at a space that encourages growth and is actually conducive to being the best individual you can be. I will no longer be afraid to take a leap of faith, I just need to be certain that whatever I decide to be my next career choice, it has to be for the right reasons.
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Outfit Details

Skirt: H&M

Shirt: Mr Price (Men's Section)

Shoes: Woolworths

Handbag: Zara
Lipstick: Mac Ruby Woo

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My Valentine: Our Story

By sindisosdiary.com - 10:41

Portrait is from our holiday in Cape Town 2012

I was torn between writing about how my 2016 Valentine's day panned out to a reflection of the wonderful years I have shared with my with dear hubby; and the latter worn. This is going to be a series of stories as I cannot compress everything in one post.

My husband and I were actually friends before we became lovers. We were both in relationships and what actually made our friendship last this long was our religion and the fact that we go to the same church. Throughout our friendship, we respected our relationships but we would share the highs and lows and give each other advise about what to work on so that they would lead into marriages. In all honest truth, it was never love at first sight. I never pictured myself as his wife because to me he was just a good friend. When God has a hand in everything you touch, it will eventually be evident.

My ex was very romantic even if I have to say so myself. He would buy me flowers and bring me lunch every now and again. Mind you him and I were staying about 80kms apart but he would make the effort. Apparently dear hubby was not impressed when I would post about my dates and gifts on facebook, he was basically jealous. Now let me get back to my story with dear hubby and not seem like I am comparing the 2 gentlemen.

I am someone who generally sleeps very early, as early as 20H00 and I do not like to be bothered once I am in bed. Funny enough, I did not mind him calling me after 21H00 where we would chat until midnight. At one point he ran his work cellphone bill until it was +/-R92000, that is a lot of money invested in someone who is just a friend. For the most part of our friendship journey, my relationship was going great and his was unfortunately going downhill fast. I would encourage him to pray so that God would save his relationship or at least give him the right partner. When my relationship started crumbling down, he was already a couple of months into being single/bachelor. I eventually called it quits when we could not salvage it.

Months went by and my cousin would ask me who calls me for hours at night everyday and I would say it is my friend. I remember one day she made a comment about no guy would invest so much of his time and resources in someone he was not hoping would become his girlfriend at least. I dismissed her analysis and I told her how he was not my type. She asked me to give her at least 5 reasons why not. I said firstly he is very tall and I am short; he is dark and I like fair skinned guys; he went to varsity with my uncle, imagine the awkwardness should my uncle find out we were dating lol; he was staying in Pretoria and had just got a transfer to go back to Polokwane, I was staying in Kempton Park and was in a project in Mafikeng, I mean where would I find the time to see him. I felt we were a mismatch to even think of romantic relations with him.

Almost everytime we spoke on the phone, he would say "I love you" before hanging up. It did not mean anything to me nor would I respond to him. In fact I thought he was bluffing. However this changed after my cousin's analysis of his intentions or "epiphany". One day I responded to him and said the way you play around with those words, I would not even know the difference on the day you will not be or just saying them but actually meaning each and every word. To me it was a revelation that I was starting to see him not just as a friend, but a potential partner. In fact, the only thing missing in this situation was me accepting his advances because honestly we were doing everything couples do. We would go to the movies, something he does not enjoy but he would gladly go because it’s me. We would buy each other CDs and books, dine out, and check on each other 10 times a day lol. He is not a morning person but he would call to wake me in the morning. Hmm

Let me leave it here, till next time....

Next piece will be in April when we celebrate 4 years of our traditional marriage.

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Book Review : Half Of A Yellow Sun

By sindisosdiary.com - 07:10

I deem it fitting that I start my first book review series with a post of the critically acclaimed and winner of the Orange Broadband Prize for Fiction Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie's Half of a Yellow Sun. The reason I chose to review this book first even though I have read Purple Hibiscus and currently reading her latest offering Americanah; I wanted to read about the book that put her on the map and earned her the many respects around the world.

I must say that the book has delivered to its promise. The clever and intelligent writing made my morning and evening train trips to and fro work very pleasant and something to look forward to everyday. At times, even the 40 minute rides felt like 10 minutes.

The book takes us back to a time in Africa, rather Nigeria in particular where the continent was plagued by civil war and colonialism. The scene is set at a time when the Igbo, Yoruba and Hausa people were fighting for power. Even during this time, life still had to go on. The book focuses on a young woman by the name of Olanna, who was from a well off family. However this lady chose love over comfort and royalty, like they say "love can make you do strange things that you would not normally do". She was in love with a university professor, and that is where she found comfort and her heart felt at peace . However, that did not mean that there were no challenges in their relationship. She has faced trials and tribulations, especially from her mother-in-law who was not receptive of her. She felt she was not good enough for her son because she was a city girl whom in her mind, could never take care of her son like a village woman would. Not only that, even when her man(Odenigbo) threw himself at alcohol just so he could forget for a moment just what was going on around him, even that did not deter her to give up on their love.

If I were to list all the things that have gone wrong in her relationship with Odenigbo, I would spoil it for you and make you not want to read it. In a nutshell, the book is about the end of social and colonial oppression in the 60s, young love, what class and wealth means to different people.

I recommend it to anyone who wants a captivating read that will make you open your mind about the things we see and experience around us. Again, this book is simply impressive and well written. I urge you to go and pick your copy if you have not done so yet... Till next time, cheers for now....