thenewsindisosdiary: November 2016

Exhaustion Or Laziness

By sindisosdiary.com - 08:30

Am I the only one who has so many ideas and things to do but very pedantic when I actually have to put in the work and effort to do it? I get distracted by minor details and then I leave it incomplete. What do we call this? Laziness or just looking for excuses to not implement anything?

Lately I have been over thinking, over planning, over conceptualizing if there is ever such a thing; getting myself amped up but going nowhere when it comes to implementing anything. I have tried writing down in my diary what I should accomplish and by what date with the hope that I will actually follow through on that but even that has not helped at all. I don’t think I am liking this person I am seeing. Or is it the festive season catching up with my mind and body. To be quite honest, I am exhausted because I get enough sleep but I still wake up tired. I think my body is slowly shutting down and forcing me to be in relaxation mode.

Have you guys ever experienced this? I am really bothered. If you ever experienced this, how did you overcome it? Is it normal even.
Lastly those on Google+, kindly add me and I will do the same.

Outfit Details

Dress: Thrifted

Belt: H&M

Shades: Ruby @CottonOn

Shoes: The Fix

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How To Stay Winning In A Relationship

By sindisosdiary.com - 01:00

Relationships are often those sink-holes we dive into by faith or optimism that they become a success. No one can honestly say the intention of getting into a relationship with someone is just to pass time and not hope for a positive end goal. I am one of those that when I got into my current relationship, I was a broken soul. I was in the process of mending and finding myself again. If you have not read a piece on how my partner and I got together, Here it is.

So how does one stay winning in a relationship?

Don’t be mistaken, me using the word “winning” does not mean my relationship is perfect or rosy every day. It has been a journey of many misfortunes and challenges but the most important thing is that we are still standing. We are learning more and more about ourselves as the journey unfolds in front of us. So today I am sharing some of the things that we have been trying and are implementing to make sure that we become the best team we can be.

Communication:

I don’t think I can reiterate how important it is to open your mouth, heart and soul and let your significant other know how you feel; especially when you can see that they are listening to you and not just countering what you are saying. Communication is about talking amicably about things that concern you with the intention of those thing changing for the better. I am not good with expressing myself so when I decide to have a serious conversation with my partner, I expect him to listen and take in what I am saying. And I try and do the same.

Planning together:

Ever heard of the saying “Failing to plan is you planning to fail?” In a relationship you cannot plan your future alone. The minute one person decides and acts on things that affect the future of the relationship individually, it is when you are no longer headed in the same direction as a team. You can’t plan for 2 people when the other party is left behind or not even included in the conversation. If you are not having the conversation with your partner, who are you having it with?

Being vulnerable in front of your partner:

Being able to let your guard down and express what is unsettling to you without the fear of being judged, it means that you are very comfortable with your partner. You should be comfortable to be silly around your partner, to be able to say I love you and it being reciprocated; to be able to say I am sorry when you do wrong. There is so much power in saying I am sorry that mostly men don’t realize just how it can be a determining factor between a successful and a failing relationship. Don't be afraid to tell your partner just how much you appreciate them or how you are happy that they are in your life.

Working towards financial independence:

Money can make or break a relationship. You can work towards financial independence from debt but don’t ever lose focus of what is important in your relationship over money. Those that love money more than anything, often have it in bucket loads but no one to enjoy it with. Many families and relationships have been broken over chasing money and its adventures and you will eventually lose focus of what is important in life.

I hope you enjoyed reading this post as much as I did writing it. Have a wonderful weekend friends. What is the biggest lesson that your relationship has taught you? If you are on Google+, please add me and I will do the same.

Outfit Details

Dress: CountryRoad (can be found @ some Woolworths stores)

Shoes: Rubi @Cotton On

Hat: Mr Price

Clutch: Mr Price

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Perfect Match: Black and Brown

By sindisosdiary.com - 00:30

For about a week now, we have been experiencing mild to heavy rains. They may have left damages to property or even caused serious accidents that left some families without their loved ones. I sympathize with those who lost their loved ones. On the other hand, we are grateful for the much needed rains as some parts of the country were starting to have shortage of water and this shortage was eventually going to have a detrimental effect on produce and farming businesses. The rains have come at an idyllic time hence one can say God’s timing is always best.

So I have been finding myself always carrying a cardigan and an umbrella more often than earlier on in the season. These items have become my saviours when the weather got chilly or it starts raining. I have been rained on before so I know the aftermath of that. It is never good as you will be sick with a cold/flu of which may take you away from work or to make matters worse; seeing the sickness is contagious, you may infect your entire family. So I choose to be prepared than sorry no matter what. I would rather carry the extra kilo of staff in my tote than suffer potential consequences later.

They say you can never go wrong with Black and White but clearly they have not met Black and Brown together. To me this colour combo rivals that of Black and White anytime. You can dress it however you like and it is still a killer combination. Enough about the colours, If I were to tell you how much I paid for this dress you will not believe me. So I basically centred this look around the dress; its colours have been my go-to this season. I hope you like how I styled it. Mwah and have a wonderful week ahead.

Outfit Details

Dress: Thrifted

Belt: Mr Price

Shoes: Woolworths

Shades: Rubi @Cotton On

Cardigan: David Jones (can be found @some Woolworths stores)

Tote bag: Witchery (can be found @ some Woolworths stores)

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Modern Vintage And Orange

By sindisosdiary.com - 11:15

You know when they say “love at first sight” I often wondered if there was such a thing or people are just bluffing. Well I can attest today that there definitely is such a thing. When I saw this dress online, I fell in-love. Some may say there is nothing special about it but to me it just tickles my fancy. Ever since I bought it about 3 months back, I have worn it at least 5 times. That is a lot considering that there are items I have not touched for months if not years in my wardrobe, literally.

The cut just gave me vintage vibes. The neck is raised up to the chin and the colour is as bright as an orange fruit. It has a cinched waist with a tie belt and a zip that runs from the belly button to just below my chin. I am sure words will fail me if I were to be asked about any other dress I own in comparison to this one. I just love it. I paired the dress with a long blazer that I bought on Instagram and white mules. Enough about this dress, I am sure you get the point lol.

I hope you are having a wonderful week. To those in the United States, how are you feeling about the political landscape of your country? I am tempted to write something and give my opinion. To those who may have read this post after I had just published it, you may have noticed there was content from my next post. Apologies!

Outfit Details

Jacket: Thrifted Instagram

Dress: Mr Price

Shoes: Woolworths

Scarf: Mr Price

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Denim On Monday

By sindisosdiary.com - 12:00

Denim has always been in style for as long as I can remember. It transcends through generations and season. In fact just like leather, with time and more wears it tends to show character and it's true make. I find that the denim jackets have become staple pieces that can be dressed up or down and still look like the outfit was centered around the outerwear. They just add that “something” special to an outfit that not many clothing pieces can without sticking out. They blend in so well with the rest of the clothing pieces.

One of the trends that has taken over is ripped and tattered clothes. This jacket also has cuts that make it edgy without overdoing it. In fact you might not notice the raggeredness of it if you don’t look too close. I like clothing pieces that are conservative in style but still look like they have life. For today’s look, I styled my current favourite denim jacket with a shift dress and some beautiful and comfortable heels for a simple chic look that can take you from lunch to dinner date. I have always been a conservative person and the way I dress reflects that.